Today’s Pearly Wisdom topic is:
Making Time for Mom
This is an important one! So many Mom’s put everyone else before themselves and it’s important to get some time for yourself once in a while… My personal goal is to do something for myself once every other week. I do manicures, pedicures, massages or just go to Target by myself for an hour!
Here’s some approaches other Mom’s take…
- Don't feel guilty about asking your hubby/partner to help. He is more than capable of taking care of his child for a few hours so you can do what you need to do.
- Take some time, (even if it's once a month) to get a manicure/pedicure, get your hair done, hang with friends, drive around with the music blasting, or even hide in a room with a magazine for a few hours. It helps to keep your sanity and feel like yourself.
I'm really bad about this. I work full time so anytime I'm not at work, I feel like I should be with him. But I do make a point to keep getting my nails done, which buys me a few hours of me time where I HAVE to put the phone down, I CAN'T take him with me, and I just have to sit there and be quiet. It's nice.
I frequently spend his nap times relaxing, catching up on the DVR, reading a book. When my husband gets home from work, he takes over parenting duties and I make dinner without a little rascal at my feet.
I use his naps to do a little housework, then I shower, play on the internet, check email, go on Facebook, etc. I will do my nails or things like that once he's sleeping at night.
Now that Landon is going longer stretches between feedings and sleeping better at night, I will go out to dinner with some friends and leave my husband at home with him.
-Rest when baby rests!
-Do something for yourself that makes you feel “normal”. Get a pedicure or do it yourself for example.
-Have a day to yourself every now and then where the hubs takes the baby for the day and you can just relax!
-Do NOT neglect yourself because if you do the entire family will suffer. This is so important.
If you have family nearby, USE THEM. I do. I have both grandmas within 20 minutes and I see them both at least once a week. Usually that’s so I can go workout but it’s still momma time. And once you master naps? DVR shows you love and watch them. It’s great during down time.
I am terrible at making time for myself! I know I should do it more often but I just never do! I try and make it a point of doing something at least once a month, whether it's going to the movies or dinner with a friend, getting a manicure, or just going to Target alone so I can look at stuff! It sounds silly but little things start to seem like big things when you can barely shower for more than 10 minutes without being interrupted! I would feel guilty at first leaving her but I realized that sometimes Mommy just needs a few minutes alone.
Thank you to this week’s contributors!
Cara, Mama to Amelia (Millie), 17 months
Samantha, Mama to Xavier, 11 months, Author of Three Beasts One Baby
Shanna, Mama to Samuel, 17 months, Author of The Life and Times of Lubey
Melissa, Mama to Landon, 12 Months, Author of Love, Marriage, and a Baby Carriage!
Emily, Mama to Georgia, 13 months, Author of Live a Charmed Life
KW, Mama to C, 19 months, Author of Snips and Snails and Ponytails
Heather, Mama to Emmalee, 13 months, Author of Keeping Up With the Giffords